Another person got put down in the battlefield of potential relationships and clearly that was hard. Even though the friend was quite cool enough to joke about it with us, it's still not a cool thing to have your hopes dashed on the rocks. When I was asked for advice, I gave what any 27-year-old who is very clueless about relationships would give, utter rubbish nothings. In fact I think I was rather cynical in a rather joking manner now that I think about it. The position my friend was in looks vaguely similiar to where I was 5+ years ago except for one minor detail.
My friend went all in.
Even now, I still have a problem of risk and will not take action until I'm absolutely sure that it is not going to blow up in my face. Of course, there are many such times where it did blow up despite my rather detailed cost-benefit analyses which further reinforces my habit. This is something that I still struggle to do, to act in a high stakes gamble (this is why I suck at games of chance such as dice games or poker) so for my friend to put his heart on the line is something I salute, because it is something that I very rarely do. The downside to this is that I will kick myself every time I seem to miss the opportunity. But so far, most of the time as the missed opportunity unfolds, my inaction has been justified. I am not the right person or someone else is the better person. And of course that just adds to the reliance of analysis.
I once had a comment from a friend a long time ago, back when I was at my cooking/baking prime, that said "If I was a girl, I'd marry you". While that was mildly creepy at the least, I also thought it was a whole lot of nonsense because if that were the case, I can name many more people who should be on the married list above me and like me, isn't married. Granted that while that friend of mine was merely praising the qualities that "might get the girls", all I hear is the nonsense. Now back to my heartbroken friend, my first instinct was to do what my friend said to me but then I realize what rubbish it was and so I swung to the other end which, on hindsight, isn't a great deal better either. Unfortunately, if given the chance to go back in time and change what I said, I actually don't know what else to say. Mainly because I have absolutely no experience precisely because I'm a total coward. But that's another big story altogether.
There are many such "nice guys" as so aptly framed by the
Ok, enough of this silly nonsense. Back to DVD marathon. And game sequels. And pool. I need more pool.
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