Double post!!
One of the friends on Facebook posted a very long status update about the anniversary of the death of her dad. It was a very well written and well said post about how her dad has been a great inspiration and solid rock in my friend's life right up to the point when he passed away. My friend also has mentioned that she wanted to carry out something that her dad has wished that he could do while he was still alive, in memory of him. That is the unshakable bond that they have between the both of them and it is a very powerful imagery of parent-child relationship. It was very moving indeed.
This is the kind of relationship that I want to have and experience with my (imaginary) children. If I had daughters, I would totally trade everything to be able to have this with them (if I had sons, this would also be true but manifested in a different way). I see this in the lives of my other friends who have had daughters and the relationship that they have, and it is something that I would like to have. My friend's dad appears to be a total geek, caring and creative and that had had its influence to my friend growing up. Basically he is her world.
It's very sad that we need more people to be like my friend's dad, to be a foundation to a child, to teach them about the things that really matter in this world and not to be fooled by the stresses of the world. The real bummer is to see their lives cut short due to the ever present tragedies in this world. And you know part of me wants to be that person, to step up to the role (this may or may not be related to the fact that I want everyone to be taught math properly).
But as the years go by, it is becoming clear that this might never be my calling, to learn the joys and pains of parenthood. Which to me is a total bummer, though I doubt that I would make a good father. But I guess the rest of the quarter life crisis #3 is left to figure out how can I be this kind of a person to someone else that is not of my own blood. Perhaps that is what I'm meant to do. Ask me again in 4 years time.
Once again, there is a John Mayer song for this thought line. He always has a song for every feeling.
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