Such a simple concept and one that everyone has generally, whether you think so or not. We have them as soon as we talk and will continue to have them until the day we die. Some may have them in the thousands, some may have a handful and the differences make up a whole spectrum of the human behaviour. We enjoyed and bonded over our similarities but we have fought, joked, debated over our discrepancies. Some string seemingly limitless words together and others say but a few choice words. Every good and evil person have their own.
But as anyone who has observed life long enough would realize, simple concepts do not necessarily imply simple dynamics. Even more so when our level of interconnectedness among ourselves have reached levels never before achieved. Just as how complex our brains are, so too are the complexities of our interactions. So many factors can cause different outcomes and can be as trivial as one makes it to be or something far too convoluted to break down to its individual components.
Which makes me wonder, with all the potential pitfalls out there, how difficult is it to actually be one?
Say for example, we are at the default position. Then, somewhere somehow, we wanted to be more than the default with another person. First the initial stages will be at the very least be slightly awkward (which in itself is something which is difficult to navigate as a person in the default position) and if it is not successful, then it is even more awkward and even more landmines to avoid. Secondly, there are moments of uncertainty which can lead to two possible scenarios, that both move forward or they part ways. The former will continue on until it hits the next moment of uncertainty and will continue to do so until the inevitable parting of ways for both. Now for parting, how does one approach it? Some just separate altogether and a rare few who do manage to do so in the best possible way, back to default position.
What about the opposite? That we want to be less than the default? Another big can of worms is opened and more things to watch out for so that we do not get our belongings torched or the other way round. And where do you draw the line between enduring and "I've had enough of this"? The more important question, or at least for me, is what exactly is this position of less than the default? It's not enemies, that's for sure and it's certainly not an acquaintance. Does it matter?
I've been asking these questions because I've had people ranting/emo-ing about both these situations before in their own lives. Which strikes me as odd because if this is how a normal person should have experienced, then I can safely say I have not had normal experiences. Well, only ranted/emo-ed over the former. But are both equally important? Have I unknowingly stumbled across the Holy Grail of resolving any conflict mentioned above or am I just very accommodating that I just cruise between the default and an acquaintance? Is that a good thing?
Friends are difficult creatures. But they make life very colourful.
------------------------
Am I too nice? Too naive? Too passive? Too cowardly? Too safe? Too scared?
------------------------
Sorry. Brain asplode post. O Hai! Ders finks to reed! Kthxbai!
Kicking it with Your Girlfriend. Awesome shots of couples with their pants, socks and shoes.
Really now. A Porsche santoku chef's knife. That thing looks nasty.
Music piracy is so old school. Television show piracy is the new thing.
Think your house/apartment is small? Try this one for size.
It all about (calorie) counting, really.
Milo 3-in-1 to the rescue to diffuse those tense moments.
Beer made from melted ice from the Antarctica. People are just waaaay too bored with regular beer.
Such a wonderful story about how one wrong e-mail can bring you closer to complete strangers.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Posts
0 comments